The FDR process is an interest based, facilitated and structured negotiation. FDR is a forum where parties participate meaningfully by:
- Listening to each other’s point of view.
- Sharing of relevant information.
- Identifying common shared understandings.
- Identifying points of difference and issues to be resolved.
- Looking at arrangements going forward (future focus).
- Developing workable solutions and agreements.
A key benefit of FDR is that the parties have the opportunity to make their own decisions and have input into parenting and financial arrangements that will suit their unique circumstances, their children and them.
Preparing for FDR
It is helpful if parties:
- Consider what issues are important to them? Think about how they can use the forum and how they can best manage it?
- Think about ideas, goals, options. What is liveable?
- Think about respectful communication; how can they speak in a way that is more likely to be heard and listen effectively for understanding.
- How can they address the other party’s concerns?
- Consider what may be durable and sustainable? How can they build trust?
- Focus on the future.